Ms. Nared vs. The Hoop
For the last week, a public relations war has raged between the family of Jaime Nared, a phenomenally talented middle-school basketball player, and The Hoop, a privately-run, Beaverton-based basketball gym, over The Hoop's refusal to allow Ms. Nared to play in one of its boys leagues. Ms. Nared and her family have taken her case to the media, receiving national coverage on Good Morning America, hoping for Ms. Nared to be allowed to play in the boys league. The Hoop has stood firm by its (until recently unenforced) policy to reserve the right to run boys-only and girls-only leagues.
I'm not the type to get too worked out of shape over Title IX type debates and my first instinct is simply to applaud Ms. Nared's parents for doing such a good job of drawing media attention to their daughter's basketball talent and, more directly, to applaud Ms. Nared for her supreme basketball abilities.
My second instinct is to ask, "What the heck is this family thinking?"
Don't get it twisted - I'm not confused by the family's desire to seek out better competition by entering their daughter into a boy's league... I'm confused by her family's apparent blindness to the fact that this boy's league isn't doing their daughter's game any favors. Check the GMA video above for yourself: Ms. Nared is the tallest, fastest, strongest, quickest, most-skilled player on the court - and it's not even close. If it wasn't uncouth to poke a few jabs at the basketball skills of sixth graders, I would crack the punchline box wide open. The Hoop is right: Jaime Nared does not belong in that league. But they are also wrong: it's not because she's a girl, it's because she's too damn good.
Losing hurts. Losing by 90 points in a recreational league hurts even worse. I certainly don't blame the parents of the losing teams for complaining about Ms. Nared's presence. I suspect that most of the parents, in fact, weren't complaining that Ms. Nared was a girl; they were complaining because it was demoralizing watching their children get their butts kicked.
What's worse: such blowouts necessarily do a disservice to Ms. Nared's game; it's hard to get outside your comfort zone and develop new skills when your teammates are looking on in awe and defenders are cowering in fear.
In Blink, Malcolm Gladwell famously asserts that our intuition is often able to unearth complex truths in a split second. I assure you: it didn't take more than 15 seconds of watching Ms. Nared play basketball to realize she is supremely gifted, WNBA gifted. It's scary to even type this sentence about someone her age: she has the potential to become the best female basketball player ever to come out of Oregon, Braxtons included.
With that said, I'm reminded of Bobby Fischer's Queen Sacrifice against Donald Byrne in 1956's Game of the Century. At the age of 13, Bobby made arguably the single greatest series of chess moves in world history, defeating a more accomplished opponent that was twice his age. Of course, Bobby's brilliancy wasn't solely the product of an incredible in-game cascade, it was the culmination of years of challenging himself against equal competition, without regard for age. Indeed, the genius he exhibited in 1956 would have been utterly impossible against someone his own age. Playing against other 13 year olds simply wasn't worth his time.
Queen sacrifice. Crossover dribble. Different games. Same story.
It should be clear to Ms. Nared's family that both battling The Hoop and entering their daughter in its boys league is a waste of her daughter's time and considerable gifts. There's a great article by Chris Ballard in Sports Illustrated this week that details Kobe Bryant's competitive drive: at age 11, while living in Italy, he was challenging professional basketball players to games of one-on-one (and winning). Exhibit B: OJ Mayo, one of the top prospects in the draft this season, was playing high school basketball by the time he was in the 7th grade. We've been discussing "Basketball Truths" today on Blazers Edge and here's an old one: to become the best, you need to beat the best. Clearly, this is not happening at The Hoop.
Next year, with any luck, Blazers fans will be treated to the arrival of Spanish star Rudy Fernandez, a man who will have turned down millions of dollars in guaranteed money and the adoration of his home nation to come play basketball in the NBA: on the largest stage against the greatest competition. He will do so, primarily, because he wants to be challenged. At his core, as an athlete, he wants to see where he stacks up.
As for Ms. Nared, we already know where she stacks up: at the head of her class. So consider this article a memo to her parents: Don't wait! Move her up a year or two (or three). Get her on an AAU team. Get her a private coach (as long as it's not Howard Avery). Make a call to Kathy Adelman-Naro over at Jesuit and pick her brain for how to develop this amazing basketball gift. In a few years, Ms. Nared will be a high school freshman playing against seniors- starting her out now against the older, more experienced players will do her game wonders. After all, it's her game -not the league - that people should be talking about.
It's her game that everyone will remember.
-- Ben (benjamin.golliver@gmail.com)
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Excellent Topic
I heard about this story earlier this week and I was torn as to how I actually felt about the situation. I think its unfair for her to be suddenly taken away from her team and from the league regardless of the reasoning. Her teammates enjoy playing with her, and she for the most part enjoys playing with them, granted it brings the team wins, but she is a part of a TEAM.
Before she played for the boys league she was making things even worse in the girls league, and maybe you gotta weigh the severity of each situation, but I think it would be a lot more disheartening for young girls to be completely owned by 1 person than it would be for a league of boys to be owned by a girl, and her team.
Either way I worry about her now, and what indeed she will do next, I agree AAU is her best bet, and should be involved in it as soon as she can. I’d hate for our home to lose this talent, but she may be better suited playing somewhere else.
Juan Dixon Owes Me $5 Dollars.
by Outlaw is Rejector on May 29, 2008 9:08 PM PDT reply actions
To be fair
She is also playing ball for a non-travelling high-school team (e.g. only home games). See Tom Hallman Jr.’s story on O-Live (http://www.oregonlive.com/education/index.ssf/2008/05/beaverton_girl_told_to_stop_pl.html). So she is getting challenged. However, it might be awkward for a 12-year old girl to be hanging out with 16-18 year old girls since there is a huge difference in maturity between those ages.
Personally, I was struck by her goal: to play in the NBA (not WNBA…NBA). I really hope she can do it.
thanks for the link
1. travelling, competitive teams are available starting as young as the fourth or fifth grade. there are better options available.
2. i think boys face the same maturity issue playing up and matury is something that people with prodigial ability must deal with one way or another. in her case, i would imagine the benefit of developing her game would outweigh the awkwardness and i can’t imagine hanging out with 12 year old boys is less awkward for her.
3. i would love to see Ms. Nared play in the NBA… As outlined, I don’t believe playing against sixth grade boys as the #1 female prospect in the nation is not the best way to make that happen.
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by Ben Golliver on May 29, 2008 9:37 PM PDT up reply actions
pardon the typo
"Honor Terry Porter." Email me with your TP stories and memories.
by Ben Golliver on May 29, 2008 9:39 PM PDT up reply actions
those jersey's
I really want one of those “TC” jerseys. are they available in any way?
M, period. Fresh, comma.
12-year-olds
I don’t know much about any of this situation, but I do know that many 12 year old girls are physically more developed.
I think she should be allowed to play with the boys. It only makes sense to group kids by ability, all other factors being equal.
She is definetly
more physically developed. Just look at that video of her playing. She looks like some of those high school shots of Lebron killing the competition looking about 23 compared to the 16 year olds he’s playing against. Probably see the same thing with old footage of Greg Oden.
Really I blame the parents for not seeing the big picture. Ben is right on, she shouldn’t be playing in that league but do you really expect her parents, who probably don’t have much for athletic skills or experience of their own to realize what she is missing by not competing against older and real competition. Oh well, she is only 12, in the end she’ll be fine. Too bad their making such a fuss about it but its obvious that parents on both sides have issues. Welcome to little league parents of the 21st century!!!
her father
actually played at the u of maryland.
and her sister is going there on a basketball scholarship, according to the article linked above.
you would think this would add some perspective.
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by Ben Golliver on May 29, 2008 10:33 PM PDT up reply actions
It does
Well in any case if she was a boy dominating at the hoop they would probably be hated by the other parents and teams but wouldn’t be kicked out. The league just decided to take advantage of her gender as it offers the only excuse they have that will solve their problems. At that age not many kids can hang with someone that advanced physically and mentally. Kobe was an enigma that young. There are really so few…
Best in Oregon ever?
I think the residents of Vida, Oregon might quarrel with you on that one, Dave. In the 1920s there was a girl named Gladys Minnie who shredded the nets for four years against the likes of Springfield High and Mohawk High. She was 5’10” in 7th grade and was already the star player on the Vida High School girls team. She averaged over 40 points per game during her high school career. She scored 104 points in one game. Once when the Vida High School boys team needed a player they almost let her play, but at the last minute school officials wouldn’t allow it.
I say it’s time to right the wrong in Gladys Minnie’s name. Let Ms. Nared play in the boys league. For heavens sake, it’s time to break down all the barriers between people in our society. Truth is, women are not much different from men, and the differences between boys and girls are even smaller. A girl who is physically able to play against boys should automatically be welcome to do so. Let her fulfill her dreams. If she dominates the boys then it will be a valuable lesson for them.
I coach a U-14 girls soccer team and some of our most productive scrimmages are against a U-14 boys team. My team always gets dominated by the boys but my players learn a lot and they don’t care in the least that they lose. They always look forward to playing. I think the experience is good for the boys too because it shows them that girls can be rough and tumble too. I think the boys have more respect for girls because of the experience. And both boys and girls learn how to see each other as HUMANS and not just as “boys” or “girls.”
Nature bats last.
by fisheyes on May 29, 2008 10:19 PM PDT reply actions 1 recs
thanks for the history lesson
how about “best of the modern era” :)
and please realize i’m not saying she shouldn’t be allowed to play in the boys league; i’m saying she should play in a BETTER league, period.
i’m all for girls playing against boys. coincidentally, i actually coach a u-14 boys soccer team as well, and the boys vs. girls scrimmages are great…. and that’s because there are no peles on the field.
the better players move up to a league where they are properly challenged.
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by Ben Golliver on May 29, 2008 10:26 PM PDT up reply actions
Women and Men aren't much different?
Really? The way I see it there are plenty of differences and those differences are pretty important. If the day ever comes when differences become insignificant then life wont be much fun any more.
LMA's reign as "LaMonster of the Low Post" has just begun!
by LaMarvelous on May 29, 2008 11:30 PM PDT up reply actions
Of course they're different my friend
However, the differences pale in comparison with the similarities. We are humans first and foremost. And the vast majority of differences are cultural, not biological. Creating situations where boys and girls interact without regard to those cultural differences is very healthy and positive for the future of our society.
Nature bats last.
Okay, I'll say it...
The future Portland Trail Blazers point guard? I mean, she is taller than DJ Augustin, and our window will still be open when she is primed. She could also could set the stage for a post-Oden/Roy/LMA team. Make it happen KP!
Can I State the Obvious?
She should be learning womanly skills, like sewing, not basketball.
Someone should be able to hit that pitch.
I think I have a man crush on Bobby Flay.
If you're gonna troll...
you gotta be more subtle than that, Tom.
:)
by EngineerScotty on May 30, 2008 11:01 AM PDT up reply actions
Maybe she can learn
to sew the mouths shut of those who are sexist…
or in your case, your fingers. Pretty amusing to watch you flailing around with two hands attempting to type. Be sure to send out the video.
"I got the goose bumps." - Rudy translated by Alamart
Ahem...
realizing of course you’re joking. I forgot the smile while I slapped you. It makes all the difference… see?
:)
"We play for one thing and one thing only, and that's championships." - The Devil Spawned
Yeah
I’m getting too predictable. That was a pretty easy softball to hit. She was too young to go the barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen route.
I think I have a man crush on Bobby Flay.
I actually coach a team that played against her team
She should definitely be still allowed in the league. It is the most competetive at that age group, and the parents who complained should be ashamed. The reason why we entered that league was to play against the best, it shouldn’t matter what sex they are. Yea she isn’t getting a lot of competition at that level, and maybe should move up, but that should be completely her decision, it shouldn’t be forced on her by the hoop. We probably had the 2nd and 3rd best players in the league on our team, and she completely schooled us.
(Woody)
thank you for your personal insight, with eyes on the scene
i was hoping someone from BE would be this close to the situation.
i think just about everyone is in agreement that The Hoop handled this situation poorly.
your statement, “we entered the league to play against the best” is on the money. You’re seeking top competition; from the video and your account, it’s clear Ms. Nared and her family need to look elsewhere to find that same challenge.
I think your last sentence is the most telling. If she’s not getting any competition, it’s time for a change of venue, hopefully one that is more respectful of her person and her abilities.
i’m sure there are a ton of boys AAU teams that would love to have her.
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by Ben Golliver on May 30, 2008 8:28 AM PDT up reply actions
I think you're spot on Ben
Limitations should be because of ability, not gender. The Hoops has shown clear discrimination and a lack of vision.
She should be out of that league, at a league that is of a higher challenge level. She should NOT be yanked out in the middle of the season unless she chooses to leave due to the fact she’s already bonded with the team and she’s already been allowed to play.
it’s possible that rules won’t let her play outside of her age bracket, and that should be changed/modified.
Frankly, when I read the article I felt like smacking some people and I hope that there’s a lot of noise and action about this.
There’s another article about a girl who had the highest GPA over her three years of high school and was graduating early. However, school officials decided she couldn’t be valedictorian and get the state scholarship because she didn’t finish out four years as required by the school district (not the state that gives out the scholarship, but the state leaves it up to the school district to determine how scholarships will be given). I read that article going… wow that’s messed up. then I saw the picture of the girl, and she’s middle eastern or indian… then I saw the state. Texas. I decided they’re not just idiots, they’re racists. It’s amazing the different excuses that people have been using this year for their racism.
I find it interesting that various forms of discrimination are being show cased this year, or at least are coming to light. I think it’s good to acknowledge and talk about them and bring them out of their closets where they can be addressed.
I support her goal of joining the NBA, and I hope other teams pass up on her so we can snag her.
I’m curious, does anyone know NBA rules in regards to gender or species? (I’m thinking of the movie gus where a mule was allowed to be the kicker on a football team. silly movie, but I’ve always wondered…)
"I got the goose bumps." - Rudy translated by Alamart
Well...
We have the Vanilla Gorilla. Does that count?
by DonkeyShins on May 30, 2008 12:32 PM PDT up reply actions
That name just makes me hungry.
I keep thinking of those Nilla cookies and milk and remembering making bowls of cereal out of it but needing to eat small bowls and eat quickly…. delicious!
"We play for one thing and one thing only, and that's championships." - The Devil Spawned
Oh Yeah
Ben was correct, and I think the league should have also suggested a better solution than just kicking her out. They should suggested a better league for her to play in. I found it’s always easier to give someone bad news if you offer up an alternative.
I think I have a man crush on Bobby Flay.
I like Godzilla better...
Because VONilla Wafer is just too good.
by jessenumber1 on May 30, 2008 2:48 PM PDT up reply actions
This isn't about discrimination, guys
Discrimination involves a public institution… college, agency, etc that uses public funds. This is a private business, and it has the right to “refuse service to anyone”. Let’s not get our wires crossed. This is exactly the same as the NBA, NFL, or any company hiring anyone they want.
I've always thought there shouldn't be separate teams for men and women
It sounds like a lot of you support having a woman play on a man’s team, but what would you say if a man wanted to join a woman’s team? I bet there would be a lot more pushback. I think teams should be separated by skill or height or something real, instead of gender which depending on how you define it is either a socially created concept, or else just completely irrelevant.
I have no problem with a woman playing hoops
in a mixed league or in a women’s league. The idea that men should play with women under all circumstances is a mistaken one however. This is a boy’s league, she’s not a boy. End of story.
Blazer Fan
Just for the record
Grant’s Cindy Brown accomplished WAY more than the Braxtons did. She’s the standard for Jaime to reach…

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